Nonviolent communication, or NVC as it is now more commonly known, is both a philosophy and a model of communication. NVC was developed by Marshall Rosenberg and is founded on the following principles:
With these three guiding priniciples, we begin to explore: What is important to us? Why it is important? How do the ways we meet our needs impact others? How can we express ourselves in a way that will best meet our needs and those of others? How can we learn to listen to what is important to others?
By understanding and accepting ourselves, we are then more able to authentically meet others in "the field beyond right and wrong." When we develop the capacity to meet in that field, we often discover that we are all trying to meet the same needs. With that discovery, we begin to understand that it is the strategies we are using to meet our needs that are most
Being willing to make the effort to see the world from another perspective can feel risky and challenging, but the rewards are beyond words and worth every minute.
All actions are an attempt to meet needs
We all share the same needs
Human beings enjoy giving
likely in conflict rather than the needs themselves. This understanding then creates the space which will allow us to collaborate and explore strategies that are more likely to allow all parties to meet their needs. We learn that while we may choose to change our stratigies to meet everyones needs we don't have to compromise our own needs.
These trainings, whether conducted privately or in groups, are based on a structured modality that is easy to learn, practice and apply to our daily lives. NVC is both a set of principles and a form of communication that can be extremely helpful in all of our relationships - intimate, work-related and otherwise. It is so applicable and easily interwoven into all aspect of our lives because it models mutual respect, shared responsibility and considerate action.